Father’s Day
is today and I hope you are able to enjoy time with the father figures in your
life. If they are not near, call them;
thank them for investing in your life. Mark
on your calendar three months from now to invite them over for dinner or send a "thinking of you" card. I am blessed to
have many father like ones in my life. I
have my dad and father-in-law near us, my pastor who is a spiritual father and
has offered fatherly wisdom in my life over the years and I am so grateful for
my husband and father of my children. He
is a great father! He changes diapers, he helps with baths
and raising our sons, he steps in when he knows I am overwhelmed or in need of
a moment to myself. My husband brings laughter
and fun when I get too serious and caught up in my list making and
planning.
Too often in
the day we live in fathers are looked down on, I know there are some men who
are not great fathers, but I choose to focus on the great MEN who rise up to the
occasion and are GREAT father’s. I know
even some men who do not have kids of their own or who have step children who
have stepped up to the plate and are great men and fathers to children. Men who volunteer to coach, volunteer to
mentor, there are great men all around us and unfortunately in today’s media
and TV shows I feel “bad fathering” is magnified instead of the great fathering
I see all around. Many of my friends’
fathers while I was growing up offered me great fatherly wisdom, and many times
paid for things as if I was one of their own kids. I had a male Spanish teacher
in high school that was always encouraging me to make wise choices, and
teaching life lessons alongside of Spanish lessons.
I encourage
you if you are a single mom or maybe don’t have the greatest father figures in
your life or your children’s to not focus on that, or voice that in front of
your children. Choose to forgive and
teach your children to forgive. Teach
your children to be the best mom’s, best dads, best father like ones in other people’s
lives. Rather than talking of all the
negative short comings of some, we should point out the best we see in
others. My parents were not perfect; I
am not perfect most of us are doing the best we can. I know there are some who have run out on
their responsibility, try and find something good you can say about them to
your children. When you first met them
you liked something about them, focus to remember that. Explain that unfortunately sometimes people
make bad decisions and it really is them who are missing out on the best of
times. I would rather focus on the great
things my parents did in raising me, rather than focus on the mistakes they made
and I hope my children will do the same.
As parents
it is a good reminder that we are not only raising our sons and daughters but
we are raising someone’s future wife or husband and the future mom’s and dads. Let
this reminder motivate you to be the best you can be and strive for a great
marriage so our kids have a marriage example to model after. Strive to connect with your children in the different seasons of their lives. As parents it's easy to caught caught up in being mom or being dad, that we lose sight of the big picture. I want my kids to want to spend time with me, to enjoy being with me, it takes effort to cultivate that relationship.
As mom’s and
wives we should magnify our husband’s strengths and remind our children to be grateful
for their father and respect and honor him for the gift he is. We should make room for them to father. I know too often we women like to take care
of everything ourselves, allow room for the men in your life to father. Too often I hear the comment “I don’t need a
man”. It’s not a matter of “needing” a
man, men are a gift, they offer a different perspective, a different style, and
it is good to make room for their gift.
If there is
no father in the picture seek out a father like figure in a friend or maybe
uncle who can invest in your children.
There are great men out there who are happy to invest and spend time
being an example.
Make it a
prayer even if you have a great husband or father, that God would surround your
children with godly counsel, that God would bring the right people men and women in their
life to mentor and shape them and bring strengths and talents where we are
lacking.
If you
notice someone who is a great father, let them know they are doing a great job. Praise goes a long way, when you see your
husband helping, fathering, express your appreciation, men are ego and enjoy
the praise, and they will help more often if they know it’s appreciated! Point out to your children when you see great
male role models, men who are fathering, give them something to aim for. I know growing up as a teenager I saw things
in women, moms that I admired and still remember now that I have children.
I understand
that Father’s Day can be difficult for some if you have lost a father recently
or don’t have that father like one in your life. Make a choice to make Father’s day great,
celebrate those you know who are great fathers, invest in your son’s on father’s
day encouraging them to be great father’s when they grow up. Let them know they are valued and important
and we need great male role models, we need great father like ones, we need
great men who serve in our churches, serve in our communities, who become
business owners that make a difference in the lives of their employees, in
their communities. Don’t have anyone in
your life you can give a Father’s day card to, give one to a dad who is
coaching a team, give one to a single father, give one to a pastor or school
teacher who invests father like wisdom in many, give a father’s day card to a
business owner that sponsors a local kids sports team, thanking them for
investing in our community.
Let’s cheer
on the great fathers and let’s raise up our sons to be great men, great
fathers, and one who will invest in not only their own children but others too.
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